Before we move into 2017, it is a good idea to spend a few moments reflecting on 2016 highlights. Here are some questions to consider:

1.Name Your Top 5 Achievements in 2016
Big, small, what are YOU MOST proud of?

2. What Did I Learn about Myself?
For example, strengths, weaknesses, talents, beliefs, values, hopes, fears, etc.

3. What Did I Create or Bring into the World in 2016?
Could be anything at all!

4. Name 5 Challenges You Overcame in 2016.
What was hard? What are you proud of?

5. How Specifically Did I Make a Difference in the World in 2016?
Big or small, how did you help others/the world?

6. What New or Existing Relationships Did I Develop?
Who did you grow your relationship with?

7. What Did I Have the Most Fun?
What did you enjoy most in 2016? Could be anything at all!

Source: The Coaching Tools Company


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DBT Workshops for 2017

For a review of DBT Workshops for 2017 click below. This is a general overview and subject to change. DBT currently meets once a week on Thursday, from 10 am to 11:30 am. Please call 763 546 6624 to reserve your space. Fees apply and most insurances accepted.


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Happy Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a time to pause and reflect on what we are thankful for. Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup Books) suggests that we take it a step further …

Think about this… What if you continued to think thoughts and feelings of gratitude beyond just the single day of Thanksgiving? Research shows this is the highest emotional state you can be in. So using gratitude on a daily basis, and not just on a single holiday, will consciously and unconsciously aid you in reaching your goals.

It’s one of the simplest but most powerful success techniques you can use. Get in the habit of practicing appreciation and make it a daily discipline. Spend 5 to 10 minutes each day and focus on feeling grateful for everything you have. You’ll be amazed at what a difference this makes and how quickly it will shift your thoughts from negative to positive and create better outcomes for yourself.

My wish for you is to make a promise to yourself to live each and every day with presence, joy, and appreciation.


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Safety Pin

images-2The safety pin let’s people know that I am a safe person. I will protect those who are treated unfairly because of gender, race, disability, and individual beliefs. I personally added the heart because our country is divided and I pray for unity and healing for all. A simple reminder that there is hope!

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Catch Yourself!

“It’s time to catch yourself every time you say ‘someday,’ ‘I’ll do it later,’ or ‘maybe next week/month/year.’ Next time that phrase comes out of your mouth: Stop. Think. And get out a pen. It’s time to slip that dream goal into your calendar. Even if it’s one small step—reaching out to a colleague, beginning your research—write it down, schedule it in, and make it happen. Do this with the next steps in your journey. Before you know it, you’ll turn ‘don’t have time’ into ‘done’! Make the call. Take the step. Watch what happens.” ~Liz Brazier

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Moving Chaos to Calm and Finding Balance

Chaos is the space of change that has not yet harmonized or synchronized.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed and felt like you were drowning in your commitments? Being pulled in fifteen different directions? You know what it is you need to do but are caught in the craziness of the moment, the hurry up to get it done and pressures to calm yourself down. You look into your toolbox for something that will help. But, all you can feel is a numbness, your stuck and nothing seems to work.

Get Off The Roller Coaster

This is not the easiest thing to do But, when you become overwhelmed you need to learn to stop and disconnect so that you can come back in a more balanced way.

Rediscover Nature

Take a look outside. Can you see a tree? Grass? A potted plant? A bird? Maybe you are lucky and can see a park or lake. There is something in nature you love to do, so go find that and do it. It will be one of the most grounding experiences of your life. Read more … newsletter-pdf-fall-2016

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Are you Disengaged, a Dreamer, Dabbler or Purposeful?

Research has shown that only 20% meet the description of being purposeful. With 25% disengaged; 25% dreamers and 31% dabblers.

Disengaged: Not passionate about anything beyond themselves and their own enjoyment.

Dreamers: Aspire to create a life of meaning but they haven’t grounded those dreams into a practical, realistic plan to bring it to fruition.

Dabblers: Jumping from one thing to the next without sustained commitment – an essential aspect of being on purpose.

“The purposeful are those who have found something meaningful to dedicate themselves to, who have sustained this interest over a period of time, and who express a clear sense of what they are trying to accomplish in the world and why. They have found a cause or ultimate goal that inspires their efforts from day to day and helps them fashion a coherent future agenda. They know what they want to accomplish and why, and they have taken concerted steps to achieve their ambitions.” ~William Damon

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Are You From Moving Forward?

Have you ever told yourself that you are going to make something happen and then nothing happens. That’s because you didn’t follow through. You didn’t have the right rituals in place – little things you do each that build up and gradually condition your body and mind to make things happen.

Little things people do every day that stop them from moving forward with their lives:

  1. You change nothing and expect different results.
  2. You keep waiting for the right time.
  3. Your planning and focus are in disarray.
  4. You make the rejections of yesterday the focal point of today.
  5. You refuse to accept necessary risks.

Living is about learning as you go. Living is risky business. Every decision, every interaction, every step, every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a small risk. To truly live is to know you’re getting up and taking that risk, and to trust yourself to take it. To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived. Think about it: If you ignore your instincts and let shallow feelings of uncertainty stop you, you will never know anything for sure, and in many ways this un-knowing will be worse than finding out your instincts were wrong. Because if you were wrong, you could make adjustments and carry on with your life without looking back and wondering what might have been.


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Joy ~ Money ~ Flow

“Despite our differences, most of us want a balanced life full of work that brings happiness and prosperity. As much as possible, we want to do something we enjoy. We want to put our skills to good use. And ideally, we don’t want to face a false choice between love or money—we’d like to do what we love and be well compensated for it.

Put simply, here’s what we’re looking for:
Something that makes us happy (joy)
Something that’s financially viable (money)
Something that maximizes our unique skills (flow)”

~Chris Guillebeau from Born for This

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Your Written Manifesto

We must go further. Beyond evaluating our current life experience and becoming clear as to whether or not our days’ efforts are meaningful to us, we must set a new and more productive course for our lives.

What will our mission be from this moment forward?

What will be our plan of action?

What steps must be taken?

These questions are not a philosophical suggestion. We should sit down now with pen in hand and write out the focus and direction of our lives from now forward. Lacking our own declarations and directives in life – written down, reviewed, updated, lived from – we can only fall into the herd. We end up where “they” take us, where they want us, wherever the wind blows us, regardless of our hopes and intent. Such a life is not one we want.

~Brendon Burchard from The Motivation Manifesto

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